Falling with a Comeback

“For what it’s worth… it’s never too late, or in my case too early, to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit. Start whenever you want. You can change or stay the same. There are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you’ve never felt before. I hope you meet people who have a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of, and if you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start over again.”

-F.Scott Fitzgerald

My favorite author, F.Scott Fitzgerald has some of the finest quotes I’ve ever read–and his books are even better. I’m someone who loves quotes, I have them hung up all around my room. Quotes resonate with me like nothing else. The above quote, by Fitzgerald, is my most cherished. It applies to almost anyone in any given situation, and it’s message is infinitely positive. In life, however long you’re alive, whether it be 100 years or 60–you’re bound to mess up. Take a moment to think about the last time you made a mistake. The last time you strayed down the wrong path. Do you remember how you felt? Angry, hollow, empty, maybe even miserable?? Even though you put yourself out there yet again, you ended up taking the wrong path?

Most importantly, do you remember how final it felt, like the end of a very poorly written novel? You felt as if it was the last piece of trash being thrown into a bin of already overflowing garbage. No matter what choice you make afterwards or how you try to change it–what’s done is done.

It often seems like it, doesn’t it? Like our missteps are the defining elements in our lives and once they happen, we can never move on from them. Like we’ll at no time be able to start anew and feel light again. You’ll make a decision that at the time seemed so right, but turned out to be very wrong. Walls are going to come crumbling down on you, waters will engulf you, and sometimes you will become your worst enemy. No matter how you analyze it, the point is that in life you will fall. But, instead of just falling, fall with a comeback.

What I mean by this is to fall, but get back up with a plan in mind. So many individuals have this mindset that falling lugs you 50 meters backwards, when in reality you’ve only fallen down in the same place you were standing before–get up and keep walking! There is no reaction without action. There is no progress without purpose. There is no change without the desire to do so. If you want something, go out there and get it. On Facebook, just a few weeks ago, I read a story about a 75 year old woman getting her bachelors degree for the first time. Do you know how riveting that is? It is living proof that there is no deadline on your goals, and “It’s never too late to be whoever you want to be.” If you don’t like the gravel road you’re traveling on now–go astray. Be adventurous. Find what sets your soul on fire.

Every single day is a new beginning. A chance to take action and go after whatever it is you want. It does not matter how old or young you may be. Ive heard of some 12 year old doing life changing things. I wrote an entire blog explaining how you should go after your dreams no matter what anyone says or thinks about them (Dream Chaser: noun / Dreamcatcher: antonym ). Life is too short to be doing things that you aren’t passionate about. You do not have to live for anyone else but yourself. With all of this being said, the question remains “what if I’m not good enough?” I’ll personally tell you that I’ve spent a generous amount of time hating my skills, and my talents, because I felt deep down inside that they weren’t and would never be enough. That I wasn’t good enough. This is what it comes down to. You can tell yourself you’re not good enough, you can let the images you consume tell you that you’re not good enough, you can let other people tell you that you’re not good enough, and you know what’s going to happen?

You’ll stop being good enough.

If you believe you’re not good enough, you’ve given up before you’ve even started. The only person that is harder on yourself than society is you.

I am a firm believer in dream chasing and goal setting. I believe in making the impossible possible. You will have more wins than losses in life, but you will fall a great deal too. That’s okay, keep on moving. Its okay to graduate and get your first degree at 30, and you can become a CEO at 25. Someone may get married at 23, while another gets married at 40. The point is everyone runs on their own schedule. You don’t have to do everything at the same time someone else does. And just because you start after someone, it doesn’t make you any less competent. Fall, but fall with a comeback.

-T.T

(Alsooo stay tuned for exciting news on an upcoming blog, I’m pumped!!!)

3 thoughts on “Falling with a Comeback

  1. Lis says:

    this is EXACTLY what I’ve needed. As a Chinese-American living in the typical suburban town with immigrant parents, they are expecting me to go into STEM and only do writing “on the side” as I head to college. I’ve never really had guidance on how to improve my craft from any of my English teachers because they simply thought I was too quiet, and therefore they dismissed me. My whole life, I’ve been feeling like I’m heading down a winding path with no destination and no assistance when it comes to writing. My dreams are neglected by seemingly everyone, and as a result I have felt a great deal of discouragement and insecurity.

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    • tamiatutson says:

      Hearing this means so much. I’m glad this post resonated with you!! I 100% understand how you felt, because at one point my parents did not support me writing—but still, I persisted. I promise your dreams are worth it. Go after what you want. Do what you love. If you ever need someone to talk to, I’m always open. Just shoot me an email and I’ll be here to listen, give advice, or whatever else you may need. Your dreams are important and they’re worth it.

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      • Lis says:

        Thank you so much!! And of course, I won’t hesitate to contact you ^_^ I feel so much more rejuvenated and ready to face school with a much more positive outlook tomorrow!

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